One of the enduring memories I have of Mother’s Day as a pastor comes from my days in Mississippi.
The custom had been to recognize the moms in the church by handing out a pink carnation to those whose mothers were still living. We also handed out white carnations to those whose mothers were dead.
After one Mother’s Day service, I heard from a dear friend who was in our church. She was a cancer survivor and a wonderful human being. She told me she felt like skipping Mother’s Day because she knew she’d get that white carnation. It was a reminder of sadness and she felt singled out on that day.
From that point on, I resolved to hand out only one color carnation to not only the mothers, but to ALL women in the worship service.
There’s another superhero movie coming out in a few weeks. It’s about a heroine who can deflect bullets with her bracelets, pick up tanks, and demonstrate great bravery in an effort to bring an end to World War I. It’s about Diana Prince, who becomes known as “Wonder Woman.”
I think it’s going to be a great movie, not simply because I’m a fan of the Marvel and DC comics series, but because it will allow girls to see a woman in a strong leadership role. This woman also possesses great beauty in addition to strength, but my hope is that what she is able to do will overshadow how she looks.
I’ll be preaching from Proverbs 31 on Mother’s Day. It records advice from a mom to her son who just happens to be King. It’s a beautiful acrostic poem (in the Hebrew alphabet) intended to be a literary device for memorizing its content.
In what could be the first “Hallmark Mother’s Day card”, these words are shared: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31.30).
Mother’s Day is a nostalgic day for a variety of reasons. For new moms, this is an exciting day as the first time to celebrate the day as a mom. It’s also a bittersweet day for those whose mothers or wives died in the past year; this is the first time without that person. Some mothers have strained relationships with their children. Some women are not wives, and some wives are not mothers. Some women want to have children but cannot. So, it can be an emotional time.
I think it’s important to celebrate our moms. I also think it’s important to use this occasion to celebrate all women and recall their contributions in our lives. Our church in particular affirms women in leadership and positions of authority, and for this I am grateful.
The last chapter of Proverbs could be considered heroic in its description of the ideal woman, or the initial”wonder woman.” Physical appearance may have some value, but it doesn’t take the place of a woman’s character. This is important to keep in mind in this culture of “body shaming” which scrutinizes young women on what they eat and how they look.
Regardless of whether a woman is a wife or mom, all women should be praised for the “fear of the Lord.” This quality provides the means for a woman to be secure in who she is. May God help us appreciate ALL women in our lives, regardless of the roles they play in the community, church, and family.
I received an email invitation to our city’s version of the National Day of Prayer breakfast. The subtext is to “pray for the needs of our government.”
This government sponsored call to prayer was signed into law by President Ronald Reagan in 1988. Since then, the first Thursday of May is known as the “National Day of Prayer.”
The national day of prayer website says, “Our theme this year is For Your Great Name’s Sake! Hear Us …Forgive Us …Heal Us! which is inspired by Daniel 9:19. As the 2017 National Day of Prayer on May 4th quickly approaches, thousands of individuals, churches, and communities will be working to rally millions of Christians to once again heed this national call to prayer.”
I know there are other pastors who find it strange that a church leader would feel this way. What could be wrong with prayer?
Nothing is wrong with prayer, but I am skeptical about this government endorsed prayer event. I do not believe this should be the government’s role; plus the fact I remain dubious to the effects of such a prayer event upon the policies and actions of our elected officials. There will be a breakfast, prayers offered, and perhaps a sermon or two calling “America back to God.” And afterwards, if history is any guide, politicians will go back to their offices to continue business as usual.
I’m not opposed to praying on May 5th. I’m pretty sure I will be saying a prayer on that day, along with many others who practice such a spiritual discipline. I’ll be praying before and after that day as well, but it won’t be because of a bill passed by Congress and signed by the President. It shouldn’t be the government that calls people to pray. It is the church’s job to call people to pray. The church doesn’t need the government’s sanction or admonition to pray.
I’ve appreciated the show “The West Wing” for a long time. Every now and then, I’ll start binge watching it with my wife Lori. I know it’s just a TV show, but it raises some important issues and retains its shelf life decades later. In one episode, Arnie Vinnick (played by Alan Alda) is a senator who is also a candidate for president. He has concerns about the government getting involved with religion, connected somewhat to his own life experiences. Some of his friends are asking him to “go to church” to pacify his political base. He responds:
“I don’t see how we can have a separation of church and state in this government if you have to pass a religious test to get in this government. And I want to warn everyone in the press and all the voters out there if you demand expressions of religious faith from politicians, you are just begging to be lied to. They won’t all lie to you but a lot of them will. And it will be the easiest lie they ever had to tell to get your votes. So, every day until the end of this campaign, I’ll answer any question anyone has on government, But if you have a question on religion, please go to church.”
I’m reminded of Psalm 66.18: “If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” God wants to hear from us, but there must be a willingness to confess and turn from our sinful ways. The church, with its prophetic voice and witness, is in the best position to call people to repentance. Prayer must result in a change of behavior, not a continuation of the same kinds of behavior that have resulted in policies that oppress the poor and alienate people.
There are times when I’ve called our family of faith to prayer. We’ve had “40 days of prayer” and also used prayer guides from our larger Baptist community of faith. In addition to these corporate appeals for prayer, it’s important to have a daily, personal practice of prayer. We must always be mindful of Jesus’ teachings concerning our attitude when we pray (Matthew 6:5-8).
Tony Campolo put it this way, “”Mixing religion and politics is like mixing ice cream and manure. It doesn’t do much to the manure but it sure does ruin the ice cream.”
If there was a doubt, let me clarify that the church is supposed to be the ice cream.
May God help us as Christians to make every day a national (and international) day of prayer for our nation (and all nations).
The 40 day period of preparation leading up to Easter is upon us. The Lenten season is intended for us followers of Christ to slow down for introspection and reflection upon our sinfulness. It is a time when we “bury the Alleluia” until Easter Sunday morning.
One of the things that usually occurs around this time of year is that people say they want to “give up something for Lent.” It’s an effort to deprive oneself of something as a means to test one’s discipline to live life without it. Giving up sugar, chocolate, and Diet Coke are among the items that are sacrificed.
To be honest, I didn’t make an official decision about what to give up. However, I’m leaning toward giving up cynicism for Lent. However, it was a close call. I thought about embracing cynicism for Lent.
It’s far too easy to become cynical in our country these days. We look at our politics and wonder “what in the world is going on!?” It’s hard to find a voice of sanity among the people in Washington. You can find any number of talking heads to contribute to your cynicism and personal political persuasion by tuning in to your favorite cable news channel. Hope is short supply, and fear is growing like Kudzu.
Politics isn’t the only thing to be cynical about; religion offers it’s share of opportunities. I’m not Southern Baptist anymore, but even I am concerned about what might happen to Russell Moore who heads the ERLC. He has the audacity to speak truth to power, and is criticized for having views that are not sympathetic with the majority of the denomination. It’s disturbing.
A week ago I attended a lecture by Ben Simmons at Missouri State. He was the keynote speaker for Black History Month for the campus. The lecture was entitled, “Race, Law Enforcement, and Faith Based Racism” This son of a Baptist preacher lamented that “the white American church has never repented of slavery and racism.” He also noted that during the early 1900s that lynchings took place on Sunday mornings, sometimes before worship was to occur. He said it was hard to imagine hanging a black man and then going into a church building to sing about and hear about Jesus. The church had divorced its theology from social concerns.
I came away from that lecture hall filled with students of all races and backgrounds thinking about the disconnect between what the church says it believes and how it implements those beliefs. That’s a big reason there is so much cynicism directed toward the church.
Lent gives us pause to reflect on such things. It should create a hunger in each one of us for a deeper understanding and relationship with Jesus Christ. One of the ways we can start is by remembering his words, “More blessings come from giving than receiving” (Acts 20.35 CEV).
We all have our reasons to be cynical, and no I’m not talking about a healthy skepticism that doesn’t believe anything and everything you hear. I am, to a certain degree, talking about how we can diminish this narrative of “fake news” and come to know what the truth is when we are confronted by it. I do want to be part of a people who “walks in the truth” so the world will know there’s an alternative, more positive approach to life (3 John 4).
And, to be sure, I’m not talking about giving up humor for Lent. That’s the only thing that can get me through this malaise I see and read about on an almost daily basis. But, I do want to be more mindful of how my own words and actions can hinder or help those around me. I want to be more discerning about how the political and religious landscape is polluting my own spiritual development.
The gospel is still about faith, hope, and love. Let’s use these next few weeks to slow down, embrace these qualities, and allow them to make a difference in how we treat others. May God help the church to be the antidote for an overdose in cynicism this Lenten season. We can start by practicing gratitude. It’s pretty much impossible to be grateful and cynical at the same time.
It’s Groundhog’s Day! But, I’ve been seeing a different kind of shadow. And I don’t know how many more weeks of bad weather are heading our way.
Division has become more than a word in our vocabulary. It’s become a way of life, and making it increasingly difficult to keep people together literally and spiritually in the local church.
I serve as pastor of what I would consider a politically and socially diverse people. We usually behave ourselves around each other when it’s election time. It’s often a good idea not to talk about certain topics in our society: religion and politics come to mind. But, how do you avoid those particular topics in the church? The short answer is: you can’t.
When people ask me what it’s like to be a pastor these days, my usual response is “it’s not boring.” That’s about the most truthful and accurate answer that I have. Being in a local church has always offered it’s share of challenges, but in our national climate, there is a greater sense of urgency and fear relating to our future. I find myself walking an unusually narrow divide among individuals who find biblical evidence to support whatever social or political opinion they happen to hold. This is nothing new. However, in an age where “fake news” is part of our national dialogue, I want to carve out a space where people of all races, opinions, and political persuasions can find common ground.
It isn’t easy, and it never has been.
Tom Brokaw celebrated his 50th anniversary as a news correspondent for NBC News. He reflected upon decades of history making events as he conducted interviews and was interviewed. When asked if he could recall a time when our country was as divided (or more divided) than today, he responded “1968.” This was a year when the nation was in turmoil over the assassinations of Martin Luther King, Jr. and Robert Kennedy. The country was divided over the Vietnam war, and the uncertainty and drama of that time made it appear the nation was coming apart at the seams.
Brokaw’s critique of that turbulent time period offered me hope. It made me realize that this country has been through and survived tremendous stress and obstacles. It also prompted me to take a longer view of things and to do my best to not view things as “the end of the world.” The church has been going through hard times and persecution for centuries, and we ought not act like we are entitled to an easy go of things. The political and societal divides that separate us can also provide opportunities for the church to bridge them. We do, however, need to mindful that divisions can find their way into the church if we aren’t careful.
The Apostle Paul admonished the church at Ephesus to “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4.3). He offered several virtues which would be necessary to carry this challenge out: humility, gentleness, patience, forbearance, all of these rooted in love. He continued to list seven “ones” which reflected the tremendous unity that is ours as the body of Christ, including but not limited to the fact that we are one body and have one Lord.
As I spent more time reflecting on Paul’s words, it occurred to me that unity of the Spirit requires effort. It requires “every” effort, which is a continual process of exerting our spiritual energies toward “keeping the main thing the main thing.” Unity in the church was a challenge in the 1st century; it’s a challenge in the 21st century.
I marvel at the opinions of fellow believers. One moment I’m talking to someone who is scared to death about what is happening in the White House. Another moment I’m hearing someone talk about how excited he is about the political changes in the works. How in the world am I going to keep all these folks together? The range of social and political perspectives represented in the pews these days creates a monumental challenge, unless of course you are in a church with a homogenized view of politics.
That hasn’t been my story, and I’m really glad. I’ve been working hard to provide space for persons with differences, even when I am disturbed by what I hear and read from people who call themselves Christians. It grieves me to see and hear about conflict over what is happening in the political or social arenas. But, it also encourages me to see and hear people raise their voices to protest injustice.
This is an important season for the church. We must remember that the criterion for being part of the body of Christ is affirming “Jesus Christ is Lord.” Being part of a church isn’t always easy. Christians have been persecuted for their faith for years, and dissent has been part of my Baptist heritage for centuries. There are times when the church facing opposition may actually be a blessing. At no point do I read anything in Scripture about how Christians should be comfortable with their culture. Maybe the church is finding its voice once again. Hopefully, we are realizing the theological differences that have separated Christians in the past are far less important than what unites us. We don’t have to divide over our disagreements. We can learn from one another and as Paul said”put up with one another” by putting those radical Christian virtues to use.
I’ll be using the passage on a Sunday when we celebrate the Ordinance of the Lord’s Supper. Some people call this communion. We will eat the bread and drink the cup as a church, doing this to remember that brings us together is far more important than what can tear us part. It’s an amazing thing to sit around this table with people who share such diverse views on just about everything. Yet, there is room for each one of them. And for me.
Unity is costly. It cost Jesus his life, and it put Paul in prison. I wonder what cost the church is willing to pay to promote and preserve our common faith, hope, and love in Jesus Christ. Whatever happens, it’s not going to be boring. Thanks be to God!